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I am just wondering after a short message from a friend saying that one male friend told her to tell me not too be arrogant towards men, as I will need men in your life. this was the result after turning down his friend request in friendster!!!. (daaa...)
Well, I’m definitely sick with all of these. Trying to be strong to go against the flow of nowadays where people sort of WAJIB taking boyfriend and girlfriend, then, mingle around freely makes me wonder who’s lense (i.e: neraca) are we using. Are we pleasing human's lust so that people look up to us? Or are we pleasing Allah, the Lord of the mankind?
Surah Abasa teaches us that, for being tajarrud (melepaskan ikatan dengan yang lain selain Allah)
and for those kind of questions (as well so-called "advice")
my answers are,
1. i'm not "anti-lelaki"
2. i have my dad, brothers, uncles, grand dad who i love more than i love myself as long as they are in the right path..
3. it's just that, i want to help you guys lower your gaze, and make sure that i'm not among those fitnah that Rasulullah mentioned before his death,
مَا تَرَكْتُ فِتْنَةً بَعْدِيْ هِيَ أَضَرُّ عَلَى الرِّجَالِ مِنَ النِّسَاءِ'
Tidaklah aku meninggalkan fitnah (ujian) sepeninggalku yang lebih berbahaya bagi lelaki daripada fitnah wanita.' (HR. Al-Bukhari no. 5096 dan Muslim no. 6880)
4. and, definitely, i will entertain if it's just for the sake of important things (education, bussiness, dakwah, etc etc etc.. as long as it's not like something hye-hye-bye-bye, how-r-u-long-time-no-c)
Dapatkan Mesej Bergambar di Sini
Ya Allah, sesungguhnya aku berlindung kepada-Mu dari kegundahan hati dan kesedihan,
Dan aku berlindung kepada-Mu dari sifat lemah dan malas,
Dan aku berlindung kepada-Mu dari sifat penakut dan bakhil,
Dan aku berlindung kepada-Mu dari lilitan hutang dan tekanan orang.
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