is it common NOT to get what you have planned
GET what you never plan?
sometimes, when i'm out of my mind, i feel unfair for i truly put a lot efforts (prayers, tawakal and blablabla) to get things that i want
most of the time (read: always or 2/3) I DIDN'T get them
if I just "went with the flow" (not 100% wishing for it, not putting so much efforts),
the consequences were (usually, read: 2/3) something-to-be-grateful-of
so, which one should i resort to?